Angry Ex-Spouse Challenges

Challenges That Could Occur With an Angry

Ex-spouse That a Divorce Mediator Can Assit With

If you find yourself a victim of an angry ex, your best decision is to rise above it and win the real fight using your Divorce Mediator. Divorce in most cases is already a tough and grueling process… try being the mature one!

Consult With a Mediator Prior to Using an Attorney

Back Out of Verbal Agreements:

Some people will simply agree on something to make it go away in the short term, and so they feel that it is okay for them to not respect any verbal agreements as though it is nothing. As soon as something is agreed upon during your divorce, make sure that it is recorded and that it is properly legally documented. This way, you save yourself from headaches and further heartaches from your ex. A Divorce Mediator can help with the completion and/or guidance regarding these documents.

Abuse to Your Children or You:

Because of how emotionally charged a divorce is, in severe cases your spouse may take frustrations out on your children or you. You have to know how to get to safety when this happens and be prepared to get a restraining order if need be. A Divorce Mediator can provide guidance on how to proceed in obtaining a restraining order.

Accuse You of Abuse:

Some ex-spouses will try to make their ex-partner’s life a living nightmare by flinging accusations of abuse and other vile things, especially when there is child custody involved. The last thing you want authorities to see is you getting angry or physically acting out over any accusations like this.

Push for Custody or Primary Residence:

Some exes will want to push a soon-to-be former spouse out of their children’s life out of spite. Some will do this to push an ex to settle for less than they are entitled to. To prevent your spouse from using your children as leverage, you can opt to offer joint legal custody and equal parenting time right from the start. This will also benefit the children if agreed to because they will have equal time with both parents and you won’t have to put them through the emotional toll of a lengthy legal process.

Stalling the Divorce Process:

It is inevitable that both sides may have to produce certain documents before a divorce can be finalized. Some exes will deliberately refuse to provide material for manipulative reasons or do the opposite and request for things from your side. You have to be sure that your divorce mediator knows what to do in such circumstances and has no qualms to use the Family Court System to deal with tactics like these.

Cutting Access to Conjugal Assets:

Your soon-to-be ex-spouse is likely to limit your access to bank accounts, properties, and other assets during your divorce process. Let it be known that you are both under the Notice of Automatic Orders during your divorce proceedings and you will be in Contempt of Court if you do so. It is wise to request a Sworn Financial Affidavit from your soon-to-be ex-spouse as soon as the divorce is filed with the Court.

Trying to Dig Up Dirt to Be Used Against You:

The divorce process is a stressful period in your life. Acting out in anger is going to hinder you and help your ex-spouse in the long run. If you find yourself in an emotionally charged situation, you need to take a step back and put that negative energy to better use! 

In Closing:

Working with a Divorce Mediator has many advantages both financially and emotionally. Some of these include:

• You and your ex-spouse come to an agreement (without the court making these decisions for you)
• Division of Assets
• Child Custody/Visitation agreements
• Child Support
• Alimony
• Stay out of the court
• Reduces the length of time it takes to finalize the divorce
• Less emotional stress
• More affordable
• Appointment scheduling to limit the amount of time that you need to take off from work.
• Flat fees, as opposed to being charged by the hour.

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With over 10 years of experience, Peter Herrman of Affordable Divorce & Family Services will provide guidance in all of the scenarios above. Call today to schedule a Free Consultation.