Divorce Quiz

The Non-Negotiables: When No Divorce Quiz Is Needed

If there is any form of physical or emotional abuse, lying, cheating, or stealing (including lying about joint finances) that has not been directly addressed and corrected, then divorce is probably inevitable. Is the offending spouse responsible and accountable for their behavior? Even if the offending spouse was remorseful, if it happened again after promises were made, then divorce is very likely.

If either of you have an addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or porn, or a mental illness that is being denied, defended, and untreated, then a divorce is highly likely. These “non-negotiable” factors were excluded from the quiz statements, because any one of them is a high predictor for divorce.

Similarly, there are some sentiments and qualities that highly predict a divorce. If any of the following are true for you, then the question is less “if” and more “when” to get a divorce:

• I can’t recall (or upon being asked describe) a positive, joyful time we’ve shared together.
• One of us threatens and regularly talks about divorce, even during calm, non-fighting times.
• There is a tone of disgust or hatred in our daily interactions for many months at a time, even when we aren’t fighting.
• My skin crawls when they touch me and I have no physical affection for, or attraction to, them at all (or vice versa).

The Divorce Quiz

During 10+ years of professional Divorce Mediation, I have helped hundreds of couples through divorce, reconciliation, and the agonizing decision to divorce. During this time, I have observed the factors that most indicate which direction the relationship will take. This “signs you need a divorce” quiz has 25 statements designed to provide guidance around the decision to end your marriage.

Print out the divorce quiz below. Choices on the quiz are “Yes”, “No” & “Maybe” For each statement, make a slash mark in one of the three columns that best fits your answer. The statements are framed from your point of view. However, if you are 100% certain that your spouse would respond “yes” to the statement, then count it as a “yes”. For best results, take this “Should I Get a Divorce Quiz” when you are calm and clear, not amidst marital fighting and drama.